http://www.lumpesse.com Thu, 04 Jun 2009 22:26:44 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en I wrote this weeks ago. And now I've lost the person that it is about. He has given up on trying to find a place for me in his future. And I'm grieving. you told me that it was the best day of your life. i could see that in your ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/06/requiem/ Last night after you hung up I wrote you a poem hoping it might change your heart. This morning I tell myself: Get serious, man. Someone once compared writing a poem and hoping it will change the world to dropping rose petals down a deep well waiting for the splash. - Ralph Fletcher http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/05/waiting-for-the-splash/ The last few months have been a rough time in my life. I started this blog as a sex blog and it has meandered through so much more than the bodily machinations associated with the sexual act. Recently, I've been grappling with incredibly difficult relationship issues among the people I ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/05/all-my-little-words/ At Frolicon I got the chance to attend a discussion on domestic violence and abuse in the BDSM community. This is a poignant topic for me personally and I learned some things about emotional and verbal abuse along the way. I'm coming to realize first hand that words can truly ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/04/emotional-abuse-in-relationships/ My Google reader has been on 1000+ for weeks now as I deal with relationship drama ad nauseum and other parts of life (good and bad) getting in the way of blogging. But I have some progress and news to report. The gorgeous and sexy Thursday wrote this really pretty water ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/04/loose-ends/ Today I see the people I love being ripped away from me. I see scenarios for losing the dreams I have let myself build over the past six months. I even see scenarios for losing the dreams that Jay and I have built over our three year relationship. People are ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/03/train-crashes/ It has become very clear to me that the people I write about here are real people that I have complex relationships with. Meanwhile, there is still some way in which I am a character. I'm pasted together with flippant comments on sex and dirty pictures and the occasional glimpse ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/03/dirty-laundry/ I have a very visual memory. I think it comes from growing up with a father that was taking snapshots constantly. I take my own snapshots of moments. And short videos of them as well. I can see faces displaying certain expressions or particular words being delivered from the mouths ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/03/visual/ Jay and I haven't spent much time apart since we first got together. I took a two day business trip almost three years ago and otherwise we have spent our nights under the same roof (even if not in the same bed). This weekend I'm visiting Michael and Ariel by ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/02/all-by-myself-2/ I've been grappling with something over the past few months as I embark on a serious relationship with a woman for the first time. My femininity feels under fire by my own fucked up gender programming. The reality is that it doesn't matter how much Judith Butler and Eve Sedgwick ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/02/femme-sex-and-taking-up-space/ A study on ethnography and dykesFebruary 6, 2009 http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/02/fascinating-reads-february-7-2009/ The “Base” Metaphor explained (XKCD)February 6, 2009 http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/02/fascinating-reads-february-6-2009/ The Talk.February 2, 2009 Sexuality Happens » Living AloneFebruary 3, 2009 http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/02/fascinating-reads-february-4-2009/ The Seattle Times: Nation & World: Georgia sex-offender rules create stirFebruary 3, 2009 http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/02/fascinating-reads-february-3-2009/ So I’m a feminist - and a misogynist?January 28, 2009 South Carolina Tries to Further Restrict Abortion AccessJanuary 28, 2009 http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/01/fascinating-reads-january-29-2009/ Self AwareJanuary 28, 2009 Maybe what women want is sex journalism that doesn't suck.January 26, 2009 Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom & Autonomy #15January 27, 2009 Ask Yourself This....January 26, 2009 Pleasurists #13 | PleasuristsJanuary 28, 2009 U.K. Extreme Porn Law in Effect - Sort OfJanuary 27, 2009 What if ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/01/fascinating-reads-january-28-2009/ Sexual perversity in AmericaJanuary 27, 2009 Another Challenged Assumption: Feminist Consideration of Men's BodiesJanuary 27, 2009 CoatJanuary 26, 2009 If You're Going to Quote Me, Get Your Shit StraightJanuary 26, 2009 Ask the AssbanditJanuary 26, 2009 Google should learn the difference between real sex and spam | Technology | The ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/01/fascinating-reads-january-27-2009/ I've identified as poly for awhile but never had much occasion to discuss it with friends and loved ones since I haven't gotten serious about a secondary partner in the past. Now I find myself with two secondary partners that I'm deeply in love with. So, I've been coming out ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/01/explaining-poly/ Sleek, cold, heavy stainless steel. I had been lusting after this toy by Njoy for a long time. So, when Pink Cherry offered me the chance to try out a Pure Wand, I was thrilled. Like many high-end toy manufacturers, Njoy has put a lot of thought into attractive product and ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/01/njoy-pure-wand-from-pink-cherry/ What if you could buy social justice? (Part 9: Think Pink: Cancer Profiteering)January 14, 2009 Target Women: Jewelry “That’s right, Dad. Your...December 18, 2008 spreadmagazine: This woman is ridiculously beautiful. She...December 22, 2008 therealkatiewest: Come On Over on Vimeo (via Vimeo) i am in...January 11, 2009 A dude with glitter in his beardJanuary 13, ... http://www.lumpesse.com/2009/01/fascinating-reads-january-26-2009/