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I’ve been reading everyone’s Sex 2.0 wrap-ups the last few days and been trying to decide if I should podcast my thoughts or write them. I figure I’ll do both and you can hear more detail in the podcasted version that I’ll get to a bit later.

The event was an interesting one for me personally because I have never appeared publicly in relation to this blog or my work in phone sex. I was both excited and nervous but luckily I met some of the most amazing people during the process and therefore felt totally safe.

The weekend began for us on Friday afternoon when Jay and I arrived at our hotel, I had time for a quick cleaning up after the car ride and then ran to the airport to pick up Melissa who I’ve been waiting to meet forever. You know how you meet some people and they are nothing like you expected them to be based on their writing? Well, this was not the situation with Melissa. She is bright, cheerful, sarcastic, and carries this amazing presence given her tiny frame. After getting Melissa to the hotel I met up with Match for a drink before the pole dancing party.

The pole party was a blast, again I expected to feel self-conscious and worried but everyone was gorgeous and sexy and uninhibited and that sort of thing rubs off on you. This is where I met Mistress Maeve, who happens to be one of the most stunning women I’ve ever seen. Unfortunately, she doesn’t do pictures but here is everyone at the party (excluding myself and Maeve.)

While I was pole dancing, Jay was at the Clermont Lounge with a bunch of people from the conference. The original plan was to head over there after the party was over but I was so exhausted that we headed back to the hotel instead. We went to a lot of trouble to get a nice hotel room with a whirlpool tub and all sorts of neat features but we didn’t use them at all and instead just crashed. I was surprised to realize that I had actually gotten sore from pole dancing. The front of my thighs were in rough shape because I guess that a lot of what I had been doing was basically squats.

We woke up bright and early, had some breakfast at the hotel, and headed to the conference. I got to see 1763 for the first time and was pretty impressed. When they said that the conference was happening at a dungeon, they weren’t just messing around. This place was, as they like to say on the internet, serious business. There were several rooms outfitted with lots of different equipment and the central space was huge and featured a giant shower in one corner (that Viviane quipped was the size of a New York studio apartment.) We arrived as Amber was giving the opening comments and then got to see Dacia give her keynote remarks. At this point it was time for the first session and I chose to attend Melissa’s. She trotted out her bag of tricks from being a sexual health educator and assigned us to perform roleplays of various sex and internet problems that people might have. I got the joy of performing a creative piece that Match and I developed to deal with jealousy that insignificant others might have over blog fans. I don’t remember much of it other than Match cracking everyone up with his request that I “@ him while I do it“. This was the first sign that Twitter was going to be a driving force of the weekend.

The next session I went to was run by Elizabeth Wood and was on Creating the Sex Commons. This was definitely the most thought-provoking and emotionally difficult sessions that I attended because we talked about responsibility. And I thought a lot about my responsibilities as a sex positive person when I step into a classroom and when I open a blog post and how (if ever) those two things are meant to interact. (I have written about this before). I also thought a lot about my responsibilities to my clients and friends and this session made me realize what important group of people were missing from Sex 2.0 - the clients. We were many of us there sex workers but none of us were paid consumers and I really wished that perspective had been present. Maybe next year!

After lunch I attended a session by the lovely Cunning Minx of Poly Weekly. Since Jay and I have struggled with our open relationship I thought that some tips might be helpful and Minx was encouraging and helpful while remaining quite realistic. I appreciated her sense of humor and grace in discussing icky emotions such as jealousy.

After this session, it was time for my own. I felt under-prepared but the vibe at the conference was so pleasant and open that I was really excited and confident anyway. In preparation, I had surveyed some phone sex operators and asked them about their personal phone sex habits and histories. I found out some interesting tidbits about the industry and how the average operator feels about phone sex. Some said that they regularly get off during calls, some said that they would never ever get off because phone sex doesn’t turn them on at all. Some said that they have NEVER done phone sex before being hired as a professional, others had done it recreationally for years. These statistics were interesting to my audience but what they really wanted to know was the nitty gritty of the job. How to get started, how to promote yourself, what to do to get the caller to tell you what they want and make them happy. I enjoyed sharing my expertise and it seems like there might be some more bloggers cum phone sex operators on the scene in the near future. Certainly a lot of women decide to do phone sex (as themselves or as a character) and the blog and promotional efforts come later. This is a logical way to go about things but I’m really grateful for the route that I ended up taking. This blog is too important to me to be reduced to a pure marketing effort. The minimal planning that I did for the session went out the window when I realized that we had run out of time just on me answering questions.

The last session that I attended was Viviane’s sex blogging session. Since I’ve been doing this for a few years, I had covered most of the ground that she did but it was amazingly informative. I can imagine that people just starting out with blogging got an amazing leg up because Viviane was sharing things with them that it took me *years* to figure out. Also, she is hot and amazing and brilliant so I wanted to bask in her presence.

Honestly, the day ended too soon. As it was wrapping up I was wishing that there was more but luckily the social opportunities had just begun. More on that later but for now check out Sakura Sarashi’s account of the evening and Sunday as she was with me the entire time.

Alright, anyone that has talked to me in the last week knows that I’m pretty damn excited about Sex 2.0. First of all, I get to finally meet people that I’ve talked to online/admired from afar for ages. I also get to share some tips on phone sex and being an online sex worker. And, I get to have an action-packed sort of weekend that should include such events as pole dancing, strip clubs, a swingers/fetish ball, and cupcake bingo. Sleep is really over-rated.

Because this event is oh so 2.0 I have succumbed to Twitter (look to your right) and I will also be liveblogging the conference itself. Basically, you’ll know more than you need to know about what is going on with me for the next few days.

Oh, and here is the description for my session on Saturday afternoon in case you were wondering about it:

Becoming a Sex Worker Without Leaving Your House: How the Internet Has Brought Phone Sex to the 21st Century

Think that phone sex went out of style with hair metal? Well all things old are new again on the internet and this session will discuss the nuts and bolts of the phone sex world both professional and recreational. We’ll discuss:

* How to land a job as a phone sex operator or start marketing your own phone sex business.
* Where phone sex operators fit in among the world of sex bloggers, educators, and workers.
* And, most importantly, how to give good phone sex and be a considerate phone sex partner - for fun and profit!

Posted by mobile phone:
I have been reading a book that was sent to me for review recently. Like many things that I read, I dip into it in stops and starts between classes. Except this book is pretty naughty and has naked lovers on the cover. Needless to say, I’ve been spending a lot of time feeling naughty and worrying about getting caught. Doesn’t that make things better. When I finish the book, I’ll have to compare the experience of sneaking glances before my students shuffle into the room with climbing into bed with it the rest of this rainy afternoon. My bed might be a more socially acceptable place to read erotica but what it lacks in daring it makes up for in ready access to sex toys.

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She Told Me
“She told me she had a headache.”

Fantasy: If you can’t stand the heat…
“You set the ice cube down and force my legs apart.”

Sugarbutch Star: Bad Bad Girl
“I brought my lips down on hers hard, crushing, devouring, insistent.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Upskirt Video from V Magazine

Editor’s Choice
Blog Action Day: Sexual Activism or Lightning Doesn’t Strike Twice

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BDSM & Fetish

My Wife is a Skank! pt2
Peep Show
The piss slit
Significance of a Collar
Under his Thumb

Sex News & Reviews
Featured Design: Go Ahead and Ask Me
My first speculum

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Capture
Faking It
Geriatric SEX! yeah. Part 2 of an interview with mimi about her (relatively) new relationship
Rant to follow!
Tantra and Kink: Energy Charge
The Grey Area
TMI Tuesday #105 (Dating Edition)
Top Ten Songs to Do It To

What To Do With Cum (Part 2)

Sex Work
Comfort Sex
Cuckold Fantasies and the “N” Word
Sex Work And Religion: Crucifixion

NSFW Pics & Videos

Catalina Loves Bondage and Nikki Nefarious
Cerydwyn (I Shot Myself)
Erotic Art Show: Houdini
Janette - Morning Blue
Jungbauern Calendar 2008
Naughty Nurse
Ron Harris Studio’s Latest Erotic Photo and Video

Erotic Writing and Experiences

Auto-erotic
Behind glass
Christening
Encounter 1, Part II: Disaster Averted
Find ‘em, Fuck ‘em and Flee
Honey I’m home.
How I Love The Fall
I need you, now

My Afternoon with Alejandro
Rubbing one out
Ruf < cake > Smooth
Sacred & Profane
Sex Tourism
Vignettes of a Cuckoldress

About this time last year I took a trip to New York. It was fun and I had a nice adventure but I got so busy that I never said more than this about it. A pity that I never finished that thought. To answer the riddle, Shortbus was awesome and Billy’s was not (I’ve made much better cupcakes at home). That leaves Jefferson - holy.fucking.hell. You know, you read about someone’s life - and he is a really excellent writer - and you figure it can’t be anything like what they say it is. Now, I only got a glimpse into a few hours of Jefferson’s life but it was weirdly exactly as he describes it. He actually is that fucking confident and sexy and interesting. Oh, and really brilliant in bed.

I never wrote about this before because I thought so much time had passed that it was too late to bother making the entry. But, as Jefferson mentioned in an email this morning, it is never too late. And he wrote about our fun just a few weeks ago.

I’m not going to rehash what he already described very well. In fact I’ll give you a tidbit to entice you:

Given what they had told me, I intended to focus on Brian at first. I wanted to differentiate myself from the run-of-the-mill men who were fine with letting Brian blow them if that was the price for fucking Elle. I was not one of those bisexuals, not at all. I wanted them to feel I was in this for both of them.

“Fuck,” I groaned, taking my face from Elle’s. “God, look at him. He’s devouring me.”

Elle rested a hand on my chest. “He’s so fucking hot,” she repeated, her voice raspy. Brian looked up to her eyes, gurgling his response into my cock. His drool collected on my body.

I closed my eyes and let my head fall back. My body was theirs.

Elle ran her hands down my torso, bringing her lips to my nipples. I twitched as the ran her tongue along my skin, her movements as soft as her boyfriend’s were urgent. I curled and bucked as she found her way to my belly.

I sat up, taking Brian’s head in my hand. “Brian, man, you’re so great. But now I need to get my dick in your girlfriend.”

Go read the rest and then come back here, okay? So, yeah, I got to experience a true New York monument. Later that afternoon, we had an awesome meal at Katz’s and I got to show Jay (Brian) Central Park.

The next morning I woke up with a souvenir that perhaps Jefferson didn’t know he was leaving. He left out the part of the story where he tortured my nipples and bit my thighs until I was screaming. I got to enjoy the sight of little purple bruises on my thighs for several weeks afterward. You can’t put a memento like that on the mantle but if sure as fuck beats a snow globe.

(And speaking of travel, if any of you live in Thailand, Malaysia, or Singapore, the Ellie and Jay bisexual fucking road show extravaganza is going to acquire some international flair this December and January!)

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This Week’s Picks

Animal sex
“As he brings me there, his hands and mouth on me are rougher and rougher.”

Romeo and Juliet: A Different Perspective
“Catherine!” Elizabeth gasped between her thighs. “You are like heaven’s own scent.”

Summer of Content
“Under the cover of my long skirt, my legs are spread for him, and I’m dripping over his fingers.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
How to Hide Your Porn

Editor’s Choice
Tease

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NSFW Pics & Videos

Catalina loves Candles (HNT)
Dave Naz does something indescribable for me
Half-Nekkid Massage
HNT: The Boot Queen
Hot Nude Aria Giovanni
Mischa in Garden Delight
More of Jason
Painted Hills
Schoolgirl, Revisited

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Heteroflexible
I came for you
I feel like…… cheating
A Night of DP
Sat Night Swing Club
Satisfying Leslie’s craving
Shadows
Someone else’s wife

Wicked Man

Sex History & Poetry
My Protector
Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Forum

BDSM & Fetish
Autumn

If you give a Dom an hour……
Kenny
A Little Surprise
Marcus and Me – Redux
Mundane Moment #1
Pretty Girls Peeing Outdoors (Urophilia, Pee Fetish)
Slave Sale Night
Therapy

Sex News & Reviews

Applause for Blogs Begun in October 2007
THE Best Solo Sex Toy for Men
Featured Design: Revealing your love style
Heartbreaker II Vibrator Review
Poly Pride NYC was Fabulous!
Review: Internet Escort Handbook
Truth or fiction?

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Alike, Not Alike, Identical

Analyzing, questions, memories, today
Housewife fantasies and domestic dirtiness
I’m a biter.
Intercourse is icky?

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This Week’s Picks

Do you want me…?
“The shiver that runs through you tells me everything I need to know.”

Love that ass (his perspective)
“But as long as we are in here, she submits to my command; to my every whim.”

Hubb and Spoeker
“He was good for show and good in bed, but an asshole in the real world.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
125 Magazine, Alternet and Enviromentally Friendly Porn

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The very best of Sugasm…. so far

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Being Stuck Outside
Dominance, Submission, Humiliation, Control
Miscarriage and Feminine Identity
The next colonel sanders or orville redenbacher
No more pen and sex
Sex on the first date???
What Is Mary Hiding?
Why “Sugasm” Matters

Sex Work
Do you like phone sex?
La Petite Mort
Sex Work And Religion: The Sex Crazed Pagan Cult Fantasy

NSFW Pics & Videos
I could watch her do laundry all day!
Just Teen Site Releases All New Nude Videos
Red Rose

Today’s Special Offer: Fresh Hamburgers

Sex News & Reviews
Belated Happy 2nd Blogiversary to My Bottom Smarts!
Fetish Film - How to Use Sounds (Urethral Sounds)
First Purity Balls, Now Integrity Balls
It’s HERE!!!! Miss Francy’s “Spanking the Male Mind”!

Team Up with the 6th Annual Blogger Boobie-Thon

BDSM & Fetish
Back To School
Catalina loves Chat
Dancing with the Devil, a D/s Relationship
The Dungeon: Sex Camp, Night One
Fuck of a Lifetime
Harder….

Heat
I Got Your Number
Manhandled
Mira
My Wife is a Skank! pt1
A Nawty Story: Diane Phones Home
Objets d’obsession: neck corsets
Our game

Piss Slut
Who is Elise Sutton and why does it matter?

Erotic Writing and Experiences
100 Sexy
An Affair with the Wind
Corseting Mrs. Russian
Burlesque: Home Coming
Gamahuche
I Succumb to Jefferson’s Dastardly Lesbian Plot!

More Than A Breast-Fondle
The Morning Rollover
Party Blowjob - Part 3

I can never resist the opportunity to quote Meat Loaf.

Jay and I had a lot of fun in New York this past weekend. There were three particular things that I planned to do and accomplished:

1) Get cupcakes from Billy’s Bakery
2) See Shortbus
3) Meet Jefferson

Two of those things left me quite pleased. One of those things was dissapointing. More tomorrow, but you can toss out guesses for the moment.