• The Talk.

February 2, 2009

• Sexuality Happens » Living Alone

February 3, 2009

• The Seattle Times: Nation & World: Georgia sex-offender rules create stir

February 3, 2009

• So I’m a feminist – and a misogynist?

January 28, 2009

• South Carolina Tries to Further Restrict Abortion Access

January 28, 2009

• Self Aware

January 28, 2009

• Maybe what women want is sex journalism that doesn't suck.

January 26, 2009

• Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom & Autonomy #15

January 27, 2009

• Ask Yourself This….

January 26, 2009

• Pleasurists #13 | Pleasurists

January 28, 2009

• U.K. Extreme Porn Law in Effect – Sort Of

January 27, 2009

• What if O stands for “Overwhelming body hatred”? (Reflections on the January cover of O: The Oprah Magazine)

January 27, 2009

• Sexual perversity in America

January 27, 2009

• Another Challenged Assumption: Feminist Consideration of Men's Bodies

January 27, 2009

• Coat

January 26, 2009

• If You're Going to Quote Me, Get Your Shit Straight

January 26, 2009

• Ask the Assbandit

January 26, 2009

• Google should learn the difference between real sex and spam | Technology | The Guardian

January 26, 2009

• Barack and Michelle – fisters?

January 23, 2009

• What if you could buy social justice? (Part 9: Think Pink: Cancer Profiteering)

January 14, 2009

• Target Women: Jewelry

  “That’s right, Dad. Your…

December 18, 2008

• spreadmagazine:

  This woman is ridiculously beautiful. She…

December 22, 2008

• therealkatiewest:

  Come On Over on Vimeo (via Vimeo)
  i am in…

January 11, 2009

• A dude with glitter in his beard

January 13, 2009

• Sex Games Beyond Strip Poker

January 13, 2009

• Poly/Relationship Mapping Workshop in SF, Jan 16th

January 13, 2009

• On Breakups and Poly

December 18, 2008

• Size & Sexuality

December 24, 2008

• Sex and Intimacy Project – Part 11

January 4, 2009

• "Why Are Gay Marriage Advocates Not Defending Polyamory?"

January 6, 2009

• If Jewelry Commercials Annoy You, This Is The Video To Watch [Badvertising]

December 19, 2008

• Safe! (Yes, we’ve got a video!)

December 12, 2008

• ‘Rom Coms’ Can Ruin Your Love Life, Sound a Lot Dirtier Than They Are

December 16, 2008

• Shave the Date

December 16, 2008

• “I’m kind of … insatiable.”

December 15, 2008

• By Your Side, by Clayton Cubitt. “Long portrait of a…

December 15, 2008

• Big is Beautiful

December 9, 2008

• Today in WTF: Planned Parenthood Gift Certificates

December 3, 2008

• Call for Submissions: Whore Lover

December 3, 2008

January – Jay and I started the year by celebrating our 2nd anniversary together. If you want to refresh on how we first met (and the aftermath of that) you’ll have to look back to January of 2006. We were in Thailand for half of this month and pretty depressed to back in the US again. So, you didn’t hear from me again until. . .

April – Where I attended Sex 2.0 and had a fire lit under me. I started a Twitter account, got involved with FetLife, and relaunched my podcast. I finally realized that I was part of a community and felt like I belonged.

May – I started reviewing products on my podcast and blog for VibeReview.

June – I spent a lot of time thinking about sex work in both text and audio forms. I also got sort of pissy and ridiculous about blogging and met Artemis Hunter for the first time.

July – I had my first freelance work published in The Naughty American and dug up some old camwhore shots. I also experienced a bit of heartbreak, but it turned out a great piece of writing if I do say so myself. I also got tied up by Artemis and finally hooked up with Carmine who had previously only been known as “cross-dressing law student“. Finally, I began publishing the Musings on Masculinity series.

August – The biggest news and one of the happiest days of my last several years was telling my dad about my “secret identity”. I’m still basking in the joy of that moment as I remember it. Also in July, Jay and I got to know Hania much better.

September – I was named #5 on the list of the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2008 among started a bajillion other projects. We also went to Dark Odyssey Summer Camp which was a watershed event for me despite the fact that I haven’t talked about it too much. I also presented at the Fetish Fair Flea Market and got to meet Catalina and Marky for the first time.

October – The posts slowed down and the earth stopped moving because something remarkable happened. We met Ariel and Michael and fell in love and my feet still haven’t touched the ground. At first I could only express the feelings in music. But. . .

November -  . . . soon I found more detailed words and images to express my thoughts. I captured the unique sadomasochistic relationship that Michael and I have developed as well as the experienced of being fucked by Ariel for the first time. And the sexy gave way to the mundanely profound as we found ourselves forming a type of family, broken hollondaise and all.

December – Ariel starts lending a hand with reviews and I think that the format suits this site. Jay and I also visited New York and saw tons of the friends that we met through the year. I also spent a sedate Birthday and Hanukkah at home with my new chosen family.

Sabrina has re-launched her brilliant blog Full Frontal Politics with an incisive and spot-on article about the Australian Supreme Court’s decision to convict a man on child pornography charges for possessing drawn images of Simpsons characters engaging in sexual acts.

Okay. Let’s put our niche porn marketing hats on here and shine the red light of reason upon this logic. Someone who is looking for cartoon photos of The Simpsons characters is probably not fueling the demand for genuine child porn that does involve the abuse of children. Shock-value cartoon porn simply doesn’t tend to cross over to the screams and pain of gory reality. Many–most I’ve talked to–viewers of cartoon porn and hentai prefer it because they’re trying to get away from the gray areas of gory reality. Let’s ignore, for a moment, the obvious slippery-slope leap of logic used here and assume, for a moment, that it’s possible for fiction to inspire its viewers to enact crimes portrayed therein.

(“Pull Down Your Skirt; Your Id Is Showing”)

I’ll spare you the round of, “Amen, sistah” and just direct you to read the rest of her insightful commentary. She has moved past outrage, into logic, and ultimately has me a little afraid. Fiction is just that and the goriest and most brutal crimes and atrocities are committed in it. When I think of the fictional material available in the world, Bart banging Lisa is pretty low on my scale of disgust and revulsion.