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I’ve identified as poly for awhile but never had much occasion to discuss it with friends and loved ones since I haven’t gotten serious about a secondary partner in the past. Now I find myself with two secondary partners that I’m deeply in love with. So, I’ve been coming out about this aspect of myself whenever it happens to come up in conversation. Recently I was speaking to an old friend from high school and had this amusing exchange:

Tom: so tell me about the new relationship!

Ellie: I have a spare boyfriend and a girlfriend now.

Tom: what is a spare boyfriend

Ellie: just like a regular one but additional

Sleek, cold, heavy stainless steel. I had been lusting after this toy by Njoy for a long time. So, when Pink Cherry offered me the chance to try out a Pure Wand, I was thrilled.

Like many high-end toy manufacturers, Njoy has put a lot of thought into attractive product and package design. The Pure Wand is gorgeous, shiny, and just a bit intimidating.  It comes in Njoy’s signature black box nestled in a bed of red satin. The box isn’t just pretty, it doubles as a very practical display and storage case.

Of course, the real question is always about the sensation and experience of using the toy. The Pure Wand gives you options. Either end can be inserted and enjoyed. It can also be used anally. The experience reminded me of my first time using a glass toy. Every sensayion was heightened. The cold was colder and the hard was much harder. I was stunned by just how much the Pure Wand was doing. It is designed as a G-spot toy and either end provides for great stimulation. I especially enjoyed the larger side for the fact that it gives a feeling of fullness but not a pokey sensation on the G-spot.

Because it is made of stainless steel, like all Njoy toys, it is completely sterilizeable and can be shared between partners with the proper cleaning. Overall, the Pure Wand is a work of art that can open up new types of pleasure in a variety of fascinating ways.

[FYI: You can get 20% off your order at PinkCherry right now by using discount code LOVE2009.]

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I will be appearing tonight (January 21, 2009) at 10:30 PM Eastern time on the Passion talk show with Dr. Laurie Betito. The program is on a Montreal news talk station, CJAD. You can stream the broadcast and listen in! I’ll be talking about phone sex and other tidbits about life and sexuality. Try to tune in!

I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing a few LELO toys at this point including the Nea, Gigi, and Bo (review coming soon). So, when Good Vibrations offered me the chance to try out the Mia, I thought I would pass the toy along to my gorgeous girlfriend Ariel so she could weigh in on this vibrator. Here is her report.

I love love love the design of this one. The size is unobtrusive and the shape is organic, but understated.
The color (pale pink) is pretty and it is fashioned from a nice material that is smooth and feels great against skin my skin.  Furthermore, it charges via USB! When I travel, I like to carry only items that charge with the
usb, so I don’t need extra cords and all that carry-on silliness so it makes this super convenient for me. Plus, I never have to worry about losing the cord. the lock function is extra-awesome, especially considering (what with the small size and the ubs charging and all) that folks might want to take this traveling with them. No more vibrating purses!

But of course it has to work well to be worthwhile, right? I was amazed at how strong the vibrations were for the size of the Mia. It is also remarkably quiet.  The vibe patterns and controls were pretty impressive – there are a large number of settings. I love lust need want the intermittent vibe patterns but I wish they came in different intensities.  I’m not into the buzzing always-on settings much, but those are the only ones
with softer intensities. I ended up simulating the intermittent setting myself, just pressing it against my clit then removing it.  I also wish that it would start up in the same mode it was on when I shut it off, so I could just flat-out skip the “always-on” setting, and so I could quickly resume what I’m doing if I get interrupted.
I found that the buttons are smooth and lovely to touch; however, it can be hard to hit the right button in the moment, especally when you have it in a tight space (such as between two bodies).

All in, I really like the design and idea behind the Mia.  Sadly, it’s not the just-right vibe for me, but it’s perfect for anyone looking for a high-quality pocket size vibe with all the bells and whistles.