Shift happens, I feel a change a comin’.

Oh, and you do have a big beautiful brain and like it or not it scares other people. And, I know what it feels like for people to take your thoughts to the basement of human knowledge and expression and just not get it. Happens to me quite a bit. But hey, we all need a little contrast.

i just wanted to comment to agree with you on D being SMOKIN HOT! omg. i would lick that boy like he was FEMA ice 5 days after a hurricane.

I read your blog and I want to try everything you do with my girlfriend. You make me want to be a better, more adventurous lover.

Okay, I’m starting to ramble so I’ll end with this. Question everything and the answers will change you. Question nothing and things will remain the same.

Meanwhile I’m thinking that I’ve had so many meta posts and reviews of crappy lube lately that no one is going to read anything I write anymore. I think it is time to sit down and write some proper, dirty, filthy smut ;)

What I HATE HATE HATE is the way some people cannot seem to wrap their brain around the idea that, hey! Sex, and intellect? They’re not mutually exclusive! I have BOTH (plus a whole lot more) in my life!

Since I’m not a patient person, I rarely bother to engage with such nonsense, because otherwise it would drive me crazy. Why do people have to be so friggin’ predictable, as a friend of mine is wont to say.

I am a little intimidated because I see you as a mentor, and I therefore want your approval a bit. However, as I had read your blog back, your voice your words and your thoughts in general are not at all intimidating. You’re real, you’re you, and you’re pretty damn cool.

It’s your intelligence that may come across as intimidating. If it is a subject that I am also intelligent on, I will gladly comment. If I don’t, I’ll read but keep my mouth shut for fear of putting a foot in it or just generally talking out of my ass and looking stupid. Perhaps that is why there is silence? For you my dear have surpassed us all in your wide range of knowledge while us twits sit here in awe :)

shit I don’t know. perhaps i’m talking outta my ass right now.

Isn’t this the problem with pro-sex feminism in general?

If you show your tits on a blog people will come to see tits. If you talk about sociology or gender bias or the psychology of power play people will read that too, but Foucault’s audience is a lot smaller than Seymore Butts’s. Or Anais Nin for that matter.

As for titillation, I personally love to be taken to the edge a little, played with, think off, all that stuff, but the majority of people passing by on teh interwebs just want to get off.

As far as being intimidating, you aren’t the first person to use that word about me and I find it perplexing. But I also don’t know how to change it. . . I try to be accessible and raw and not alienate people (well, normally!) but I still run up against this idea that I am intimidating.

Perhaps more bloggers experience it than I know or perhaps I am giving off intimidating vibes that I don’t know about.

As for Sugasm, I was in the very first one way back in the day and it has been amazing to watch it grow and evolve. I don’t mean to insult it and I think that more than things going down hill with it in any sort of way, I am experiencing some ennui with sex writing. Not the fault of the sex writers, just my brain longing for the next big thing.

Perhaps some of your readers are intimidated (but in awe of) your intelligent posts and while they read and appreciate them as much as any other post, they are afraid to comment and look like a complete idiot.

I can’t comment on the rest of your rant because, well, I’m afraid that perhaps my blog fits in the category of what you described – maybe not – but I will acknowledge that I too have seen quite a number through Sugasm that seem…shallow.

“Sex is so boring.” – Foucault

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Your holier-than-thou attitude is not helping you reach more readers. If you’re just venting, vent, but don’t attack other bloggers for doing exactly what you have done in the past (and benefited from).

Love you. ;)