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Trying Universal Lube for the first time was a terrifying experience. I wasn’t worried about what it might do to my body. I basically trusted that VibeReview would never send me anything dangerous and that it would be a passable lube. But I was scared to death about what it might do to my silicone toys.

Traditional wisdom dictates that you do not use silicone lubes with silicone sex toys. The fact that they are made of similar materials triggers a reaction and can allow the lube to break down the materials in your precious silicone toys. So, even though silicone lubes can be awesome and a lot of people prefer them, most of us keep water-based lubes around for sex toy use.

But, Universal Lube is different. The name really says it all. It is a silicone lube that is designed to be safe with sex toys. I was a bit scared the first time I squirted it onto one of my favorite silicone dongs but I am happy to report that the toy came out unscathed.

Now that we’ve established that it didn’t fuck up my toys, how does it work as a lube? Pretty well, I think. It is thicker than most silicone lubes I’ve tried so that means that it stays in place. In general, this class of lube is more slippery than slick so you feel the lubrication in a more pure sense instead of just wetness. Depending on the situation, I love this because it preserves a lot more of the friction of sex while maintaining a safe and comfortable level of movement and lubrication.

I was also really please that the bottle is a generous size, inviting me to slather on as much as I felt like while I was playing. Many silicone lubes are incredibly pricey so this seemed like a great value.

If you like the feel of silicone lubes but get nervous about using them because they negate the use of your favorite toys, then Universal Lube is a must to try. You’ll find that it may become one of your go-to lubes because it will keep your options open in terms of toy choices and can be easily layered with water-based lubes to create new sensations.

When I first heard about the Fukuoku vibrating glove I instantly knew it was a really good idea. I enjoy massage and I enjoy vibrations. There is no reason that these things shouldn’t go together. Packaging it all in the form of a glove was just too ingenious to pass up.

The glove is not meant to fit snugly as it is one size fits all but it does come in left or right-handed varieties. I chose right-handed since it would be useful to everyone in our household that way.

The way this toy works is that the tips of each finger have an individual, small vibrator in them. So, across the entire hand a lot of vibration is possible. It feels fabulous when run over almost any body part. You can give an aggressive massage while wearing the glove and really dig your fingertips in transmitting the vibrations into the muscles. You can also very much enhance an erotic massage and the glove works great for sensation play of all types.

Of course you can also rub your hand all over your pussy and have a superb level of control and precision with each individual vibrator. I enjoyed being able to have an ergonomic position and also being able to vary my touch from incredibly light to  firm, grinding movements.

My only real complaint about this glove is the inevitable reality that your fingertips start to get over-vibrated rather quickly while wearing it. I found that when I pressed down hard they started to go numb and when I was using a light touch against my body, my fingertips felt tickled. Still, slightly funny finger sensations are a small price to pay to be able to provide this sort of pleasure to yourself or a partner.

This weekend Jay and I travelled to the Fetish Fair Flea Market in Charlotte to present a class on Kinky Phone Sex for Couples. We had a great time and met some great friends that we had previously only known online. Catalina and Marky were kind enough to open their home to us and we spent Friday night with them. I wish I could say that we had some hot sex to tell you about (I mean, I really wish) but we were all beat and after eating pizza and talking about blogs and sex and random kinky stuff we all got to bed pretty early.

However, Catalina and Marky are amazingly cool people and both brilliantly fun, smart, and sexy. Know how sometimes when you are meeting someone for the first time it can be weird and you get uncomfortable because they aren’t exactly what you expect them to be? Well, this was not one of those situations.

On Saturday they both attended my class along with a small group and I got to have a great conversation/workshop with some lovely people about how to improve communication in their relationships and share fantasies with phone sex. After my class, it was time to go shopping since that was what the Fetish Fair was about.

Jay and I saw tons of cool stuff from some great vendors but we were most swayed by the amazing assortment of canes from The Kink Shop. We picked out three pretty thick ones and I can’t wait to try them out.

Our friends Liz and Alex had come to see us at the Fetish Fair and after we got our canes, Liz ran up to me in a gorgeous under the bust corset. She hadn’t been wearing it when I saw her just a few minutes before and I quickly complimented her on it. So, just for kicks, she said she would show me the vendor she had got it from.

Bear in mind that I had absolutely no intention of buying a corset. They are certainly gorgeous but it seemed like a lot of money to spend on a single item of clothing. However, the owner of Passional was really lovely and sweet and cinched me into a few just to try them out. This brings me to my tutorial on how to get your boyfriend to buy you a corset. Just follow this simple procedure:

Step One: Try on corset and let boyfriend see.

Congratulations! You have just successfully gotten your boyfriend to buy you a corset. I wish I was kidding but Jay’s hand was on his wallet before I even made it to the mirror. Sure, it was a lot of money to spend but he rationalized that it was a gift for both of us. So, how does it look?  How about you tell me.

More pictures are right on Flickr.

Some situations beg for subtlety. Vibrations on my clitoris tend to be one of them.

I had heard amazing things about Lelo products and knew was expecting big things from this toy. The Nea has amazing packaging that had be instantly intrigued.  It came in a vivid purple outer box and a black display box that is perfect for leaving on the nightstand for storing the toy.

Taking the small vibrator out of the box I was surprised by its small size and how lightweight it was. The Nea has a gorgeous smooth finish that rests in my hand beautifully. It is clearly intended as a sensual experience; this is a toy that begs to be caressed as much as it deserves to caress you.

But while design can create a lovely mood and instill a feeling of luxury, what really matters is how well it works, right? Well, it felt great.

People that are fans of deep and very intense vibrations may be disappointed by the Nea but if you like light teasing, you are in for a treat. The Nea has several different speeds and 5 programs for vibration patterns. The vary from quick bursts of buzzing to a wave pattern that brings the intensity up and down. I enjoyed the wave for teasing myself and getting going and the fastest set of bursts to take me over the edge.

Beyond the different vibration settings, there are several other things that set this toy aside as outstanding. First of all, it is made of safe materials that can be properly cleaned, this is an important thing to think about in any sex toy. Second it is rechargeable and has a long battery life. I wish my cell phone could perform this well for so long on such a short charge. If the Nea had a GPS it would be officially sexier than my iPhone. Finally, the construction is very unique and well-thought out. The vibrations seem to be focused into the tip so holding it doesn’t make my hand numb and the shape is very pleasant to hold onto.

The Nea has become my go-to toy for clitoral stimulation. When I’m deciding what to toss in the toy bag for a play party or weekend away, it always comes along. It is lovely, discreet, and produces really unique sensations.

Goliath is an intimidating name for a dildo isn’t it? I guess “Perfect Silicone Cock That Fills You Up Just Right” was too long to fit on the package. But, that is how I feel about the Goliath. Is it big? Yes. I was actually a bit alarmed when I first saw it.

I held it up to Jay and asked, “Is this bigger than Ian?”

He raised his eyebrows and was clearly scrutinizing my ability to judge cock size. Then he snatched if from my hands and slid the Goliath into his mouth.

“It is a bit longer,” he declared, “but not as thick as Ian.”

I let out a sigh of relief and grabbed the lube.

The Goliath is the first realistic dildo that I have ever owned. Despite being a gorgeous, deep shade of iridescent blue silicone, it has veins and a head like a real penis. It is quite firm, when I hold it in my hand I have this urge to squeeze it really hard. And I do. And it doesn’t yield very much at all.

Do I need to mention again that being made of silicone is really important and makes the Goliath a brilliant toy that will last you for many years? That means that it is sturdy, allergy-free, and can be sterilized in boiling water. It is made by Tantus who are my favorite manufacturers of pure silicone toys.

But, there are some other good details. The Goliath is harness compatible, I can’t wait to try it out in my Corsette. Perhaps with Hania? It also comes with a bullet vibe that slips inside a small opening in the bottom. Silicone conducts vibrations brilliantly and the vibe is removable so that you can still clean the toy properly.

It is easy to get jaded on dildos and think that one is sort of the same as the one next to it. But the Goliath stands out among them. The shape is delicious and satisfying and the textures and materials feel like heaven.

Thanks so much to the folks at VibeReview for sending me great toys. You can get 10% off your order between now and November 4th with the Obama for President coupon.

Almost anyone that is into BDSM and sensation play has seen one of these spiky metal toys before but the rest of you may be a bit confused by it. Allow me to introduce you to the Wartenberg Wheel, a compact and versatile addition to your toy bag.

This pinwheel is stainless steel and has a spinning head with small needles radiating out from it. You can use it in a variety of ways depending on your partner and your own sadistic streak. Changing the amount of pressure exerted and the location of the wheel allows for drastic changes in sensation.

Jay and I tried it out on each other and played with pressure. It can range from tickly to downright ouchy and allows for a lot of fun sensations in-between. This toy can be a fun addition to a sensual massage, a bondage session, or it can be fun to sneak into oral sex. Try getting your partner close to climax and then firmly sliding this pinwheel up his or her thigh.

“I wish you had a cock,” he says.

I turn while continuing to fasten my bra. He is sitting up in bed now, sleepy-headed. I’m looking around for a clean shirt to wear.

“Oh?”

“Yeah,” he explains, “I was invited to a gang bang and I wish you could come.”

I laugh.

“Plus if you had a cock, we could jerk each other off.”

I walk out of the room thinking about just how normal that conversation really was in our lives. In retrospect, I realize that I own plenty of cocks and am more than equipped to participate in a gang bang.

Jay and I tried the Neo Love Ring together in several different configurations over the last few weeks. We talked about it and I thought I would just let you read the chat logs:

Ellie: So, what did you think of that vibrating cock ring?
Jay: Good stuff. It’s already served many purposes.
Ellie: Any that I don’t know about?
Jay: Haha, nope. All of them were your ideas.
Jay: You don’t remember how we used it the first time?
Ellie: Well, yeah, the submissive on the wall in the cock bondage.
Ellie: Did you try it on your balls at all? How did that feel?
Jay: Yeah, we turned it around the second time we used it. It was quite nice.
Ellie: Would it make them numb after awhile or stay good?
Jay: I think a lot of guys are afraid of having vibrating devices on their balls, but it was gentle and nice.
Jay: Ian (and his extra-sensitive scrotum) would approve, I think.
Ellie: Okay, so good for balls, then.
Jay: Yeah, quite good. I love the dual modes on it.
Ellie: that was really good for teasing actually
Ellie: since it would only go on when it was pressed against me it didn’t make me come too fast.
Jay: Yep. I liked that.
Jay: I easily got an extra 10 minutes of sex from you thanks to it ;)
Ellie: LOL
Ellie: Am I that bad?
Jay: Yes?
Jay: No, it’s okay. The 4 minutes before you come are totally worth it.
Ellie: I don’t think that most people would expect a vibrating cock ring to slow things down for a girl.
Ellie: I guess I’m weird.
Jay: Yeah, well.. I think that was more my plan than the cockring.
Jay: It was just the tool I used to make it happen.
Ellie: If you had it on the constant vibration mode, that would have failed.
Jay: Most likely, yes.
Jay: I mean, it’s pretty strong, but not to the point of numbness, at least not for me.
Ellie: But overall, you enjoyed it?
Jay: Yeah, although the “ring” could be a little tighter.
Ellie: Yeah, those jelly ones aren’t really good at constricting things.
Jay: The ring is just the way it holds onto you, it’s not really a cock-ring. It has ridges inside it to keep from constricting blood flow a bit.
Ellie: So, as a penis attachment, good. As a cock ring, sort of weak?
Jay: Great minds think alike, yeah.
Jay: Yep, definitely a fun toy. Basically turns any functioning penis into a vibrator. How can that be a bad thing?

So, we love the Neo Love Ring. It is good for sex, it is good for masturbation, and it is good for torturing squirming submissives. This is a multitasker in the bedroom and a new favorite for us.