January – Jay and I started the year by celebrating our 2nd anniversary together. If you want to refresh on how we first met (and the aftermath of that) you’ll have to look back to January of 2006. We were in Thailand for half of this month and pretty depressed to back in the US again. So, you didn’t hear from me again until. . .

April – Where I attended Sex 2.0 and had a fire lit under me. I started a Twitter account, got involved with FetLife, and relaunched my podcast. I finally realized that I was part of a community and felt like I belonged.

May – I started reviewing products on my podcast and blog for VibeReview.

June – I spent a lot of time thinking about sex work in both text and audio forms. I also got sort of pissy and ridiculous about blogging and met Artemis Hunter for the first time.

July – I had my first freelance work published in The Naughty American and dug up some old camwhore shots. I also experienced a bit of heartbreak, but it turned out a great piece of writing if I do say so myself. I also got tied up by Artemis and finally hooked up with Carmine who had previously only been known as “cross-dressing law student“. Finally, I began publishing the Musings on Masculinity series.

August – The biggest news and one of the happiest days of my last several years was telling my dad about my “secret identity”. I’m still basking in the joy of that moment as I remember it. Also in July, Jay and I got to know Hania much better.

September – I was named #5 on the list of the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2008 among started a bajillion other projects. We also went to Dark Odyssey Summer Camp which was a watershed event for me despite the fact that I haven’t talked about it too much. I also presented at the Fetish Fair Flea Market and got to meet Catalina and Marky for the first time.

October – The posts slowed down and the earth stopped moving because something remarkable happened. We met Ariel and Michael and fell in love and my feet still haven’t touched the ground. At first I could only express the feelings in music. But. . .

November -  . . . soon I found more detailed words and images to express my thoughts. I captured the unique sadomasochistic relationship that Michael and I have developed as well as the experienced of being fucked by Ariel for the first time. And the sexy gave way to the mundanely profound as we found ourselves forming a type of family, broken hollondaise and all.

December – Ariel starts lending a hand with reviews and I think that the format suits this site. Jay and I also visited New York and saw tons of the friends that we met through the year. I also spent a sedate Birthday and Hanukkah at home with my new chosen family.

I am one of those unfortunate people than relatively unsensitive nipples (not to be confused with insensitive nipples, that will insult your mother and spit on your dog). But, luckily, I can get some added sensation with just the right type of stimulation. That is where Variations Nipple Clamps come into the picture. Nipple clamps are such a standard requirement for BDSM practitioners that I’m sort of ashamed to admit I didn’t own this important sex toy before this.

I tried out these clamps on myself but there is no interesting story to tell there. Instead, I’ll let you in on how Ariel felt about trying them.

Ellie: Nipple Clamps – Did you like them?
Ariel: Yes
I was nervous about them at first – I’ve never used proper clamps before, and I was worried they might be much more of serious business than I was ready for
Being adjustable definitely helps, and I love it when you play with the connecting chain
Ellie: Yeah, I just tried them on and the chain is interesting. Just the weight of it causes this low-level stimulation that is constant.
Did they seem sturdy?
Ariel: From my side it did seem sturdy, although I didn’t spend much time studying their construction
Ellie: No, I guess you wouldn’t have ;)
Tell me what it felt like when I took them off?
Ariel: It burned like coal-fire and made me want to cry for a moment, just a moment, then it faded down quickly to a hot rush of sensation
Ellie: You made such a pretty noise.
Ariel: My nipples are pretty sensitive and every time I pressed against any of you for the rest of the day, I could instantly remember exactly how it felt
Ellie: I was very cross the other day when I saw that someone had removed your clamps without me while I was looking for a toy. I wouldn’t put them on if I didn’t want to be there to see that look on your face ;)
Ariel: Yeah, J did one and M did one, they cheated you out of your prize
I do promise to make it up to you, though
Thats what I get for letting boys get at you when I’m playing.
So, overall, you’re a fan of the clamps?
Ariel: I’m definitely in the fan club
Ellie: President? Treasurer? Rank-and-file member? ;)
Ariel: Secretary maybe
Ellie: Excellent.

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