I’ve identified as poly for awhile but never had much occasion to discuss it with friends and loved ones since I haven’t gotten serious about a secondary partner in the past. Now I find myself with two secondary partners that I’m deeply in love with. So, I’ve been coming out about this aspect of myself whenever it happens to come up in conversation. Recently I was speaking to an old friend from high school and had this amusing exchange:

Tom: so tell me about the new relationship!

Ellie: I have a spare boyfriend and a girlfriend now.

Tom: what is a spare boyfriend

Ellie: just like a regular one but additional